ARROGANCE IS

I was waiting in the lobby of a Hotel for an afternoon meeting with one of our principals when an apparent Guest of the hotel approached the information. The Guest is of a nationality noted to have a articulated social strata in their country. They are observed to be arrogant, announcing their position or education or if you give them a chair and a table and they will think they are already high in position. He asked the guy in the counter who happens to be his compatriot.

Guest: “Show me how to get to XYZ Mall”
Information: “Sure. Where to again?”
Guest: “To XYZ Mall. Do I have to repeat what I am saying? You’re not hard at hearing, are you? Are you all the same in your village?”

Uhuumm umaangat na ang magazines sa harap ko sa lumalakas na hangin.

Information: “Okay. It is very near here. Just make a U-turn at the first corner and after 2 traffic lights, you turn right and you are already there.”
Guest: “Stop telling me what to do! I’m not your servant! Don’t you know that I am GM of ABC Company?”
Information: “Sir, I never tell you what to do. I am telling you the directions.”
Guest: “Just don’t tell me what to do. Don’t tell me to make a U-turn. I am not your servant!”
Information: “With fervent apologies Sir. Here is the map Sir. Certainly, it shows the directions anywhere in the city.”
Guest: “This will do, you Donkey!”

Arrogance sucks.

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“Better watch out. Going for the knockout. And I won’t stop. Till I’m on top now. Not gonna give up. Until I get what’s mine” – Joanna Pacitti

FAITH IS HUMILITY – LESSON FROM THE MOVIE “SALMON FISHING IN THE YEMEN”

Di ako kaagad maka-get over sa movie na “Salmon Fishing in the Yemen” ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qMMZJl2dlrM). At first I was hesitant to watch this movie because of the “Salmon Fishing” in the title. I was thinking it was a sort of tutorial in fishing and I want some story that can bring motivation. I enjoyed watching and attentively listened to the dialogues. It gives us more understanding about Faith. Most notable quote in the movie:

“I intended to create a small miracle. Something to glorify God and bring our tribes together. Sometimes I wonder if we haven’t created something that glorifies man. It is a very fine line.” – Sheik Muhammad

Madalas nating sinasabi na ang anumang bagay na ating ginagawa o nakakamit ay for God’s purposes or to glorify Him, pero to quote from the movie, hindi natin matawid ang “very fine line” dahil tinatalo tayo ng pagglorify (pag-angat) sa ating sarili. Kapag nakatanggap ng increase o bonus, “God be the glory” kaagad tayo, pero ipapamalita agad, magboblow out. Bakit di natin kaya maibigay kahit part ng increase sa kawanggawa, instead of ipagblow out natin. That glorifies God more. Or kapag nakaligtas sa isang kapahamakan o nanalo sa isang paligsahan (lalo na kung pera ang premyo), “Praise God” kaagad tayo, pero after praising God, nasaan tayo and again blow out or magpakain, in the guise of sharing the blessings. All with a purpose of announcing what we have achieved, what we have surpassed, what we have survived. Meron pa nga riyan, “praise God, number 1 ako or ang anak ko” (I hate to use the popular Top 1 or Top 3 or Top 5, because it is grammatically wrong, and what one implies is pinakamataas, pangatlo, panglima, pag Top 3, ibig sabihin 3 silang nangunguna, so with Top 5), pero ang itinataas ay ang sarili o ang anak.

We achieved something, we survived, we passed, because of our Faith, Faith in God. Kadalasan challenge ko nga sa mga nakakaachieve, nakakasurvive, nakakapasa.. kung may increase ka ng say 1,000 pesos, bakit di mo ibigay sa kawanggawa ang unang increase mo, iyong unang 1,000 pesos lang. We would rather buy something or treat friends with that 1,000 pesos and how happy we are hearing papuri SA ATING NAKAMIT.

The fine line here is HUMILITY.

Luke 18:14 “For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”

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“For Thy steadfast love is great, Is great to the heavens, And Thy faithfulness, Thy faithfulness to the clouds.
Be exalted, O God, above the Heavens. Let Thy glory be over all the earth.” – Christian Worship Song

LOVE OR RESPECT? RESPECT OR LOVE?

Miriam Santiago when asked what she prefers, to be loved or to be respected: “I want to be respected because respect means using the mind, while to be loved means using the heart, which is very unreliable.”

Maraming interpretasyon at kahulugan ang Love at Respect. Merong nagsasabi na pag may love ay may respect at pag may respect ay may love.

Kung dumarating ang isang mataas ang katungkulan, maging sa kompanya, sa gobyerno o saan man, pansinin na lahat ay rumirespeto sa kanya. You call that respect, don’t you? But such respect is phony, sa punto ng mga nangyayari sa ating bansa o saan man,  because behind it there is fear, greed. Marami ang kaya gumagalang, wants something out of the guy, so may naglalagay ng bulaklak, merong yes ng yes, aabutan ng kape, etc. Meron ding dahil natatakot tayo kaya tayo ay gumagalang, baka mawalang ng trabaho, baka makulong o baka masuspinde.  If you really have love in your heart, para sa iyo kahit pa anong katayuan niya, Presidente, Manager, Guro, Katiwala, Katulong o Janitor  you have respect, a feeling for them all, because love does not ask anything in return.

Which goes back sa isang nabasa ko na Men likes to be respected, while Women likes to be loved.

When men receive respect, they respond in love. When women receive love they begin to respect. Nagkakaroon ng malusog na pagsasama. The opposite is also true, halos lahat tayo ay nagrireact imbes na magrespond. Kapag ang isang lalake ay naramdamang di siya iginagalang, ang reaction niya ay nagiging unloving, nagiging mapagsarili at agresibo. Ang babae naman kapag nakaramdam na di sila loved, nagiging disrespectful, nagiging punahin, nagger, at magagalitin.
 
Kaya nga men must give love. Maging expressive, pakinggan ang hinaing ng mga babae, maging a shoulder to cry on, a laughing heart to tell corny jokes. Ang mga women naman ay maging respectful. Give praises, encouragements, ipakitang masaya ka sa piling niya, at higit sa lahat huwag punahin ang mga kakulangan.
Kaya I think si Miriam ay may pusong lalake dahil sa mas gusto niya ang respect.
However,  the respect must be borne out of love. Walang nakatagong agenda.
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 “Oh baby please, give a little respect to me. I’m so in love with you. I’ll be forever blue
That you give me no reason. ” – Erasure

WAY TO INSPIRE.. THANKS JIMMY!

Makisakay na nga muna ako sa Gilas Pilipinas mania. Me good and bad points kasing naituro sa atin ang karanasan na ito sa Spain.

Una, maraming kritiko at bashers ang naglabasan na naman. Sila iyong wala nang nakitang maganda sa buhay, lalo na sa ibang tao. Sila iyong magagaling at walang mali sa mga ginagawa. Sa mga close losses ng Gilas, from the coach to the players at marahil nga ang iba pati God ay sinisisi nila. Can’t satisfy these kind of people. They are forever insatiable because they are forever covering up their incapacities, insufficiencies at kawalan ng achievements sa buhay. No thank you’s para sa kanila.

Second, lumabas ang mga heroes like Pingris, Chan, de Ocampo, Norwood (what a guy), Blatche, Aguilar, Fajardo, Tenorio, almost all of the team, but the most notable is Jimmy Alapag.

Jimmy personified inspiration. He is Mr. Inspiration.

JImmy Alapag had come to Manila on his own, with nothing but a small bag and a dream: to play for the Philippine team. No family, no backer; just his raw desire and courage. His papers didn’t make it in time for the Asian Games that year. Then, in his first exhibition game in the PBA, he fractured his hand. But he never gave up. He was the Rookie of the Year and led his team to six PBA championships. And he directed Gilas to that magnificent win over Senegal. He is an example for all of us. An inspiration to move on despite criticisms and bashes.

People are inspired with different things and often by small things.

We can also do it by showing:

a. Optimism – show energy, look at opportunities and project that you give hope to do things
b. Courage – stand up for what you believe, even it it is not popular
c. Care – you support, you commit sa mga kaibigan, sa pamilya, sa team, kahit na ano ang mangyari

We can move others by being an example. We can inspire others even in small ways.

I met Jimmy at the dairy section of Pioneer Center in Mandaluyong in early 2006, simple guy quietly taking groceries.

Oh, by the way, Jimmy is only 5′ 9″. And his monicker is “Mighty Mouse”.

Small.

But inspiring.

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“Build something. Build a better place and call it home. Even if it means nothing. You’ll never ever feel that you’re alone.”- Oasis

Do something for your health this Eid Holiday

It is Ramadan, a very important component of Islam and it culminates in the celebration of Eid El Fitr after a month of fasting.

Ang pagaayuno ay mahalaga hindi lang sa punto ng ating mga kapatid na muslim, ito ay mahalaga sa ispirituwal na buhay ninuman.. kahit na anong relihiyon.

Pinakamahalaga na rito ay ang control sa sarili na dala ng fasting para mapagtuunan ng atensyon ang spiritual na bahagi ng ating sarili. It develops a closer relationship to God, because we are inclined to think of the less fortunate. Naranasan ang magutom para sa pagsimpatiya sa mga nangangailanang.
Ito ay nagbibigay ng pang-unawa, pasasalamat at pagkilala sa mga bagay na mayroon tayo.

Magsisimula na ang mahabang holiday at tulad ng dati iniisip na naman ng mga kababayan natin kung ano ang gagawin ngayong bakasyon. Mga gawaing ang layunin daw ay makapagrelax at makapahinga saglit sa mga pang-araw araw na trabaho.

Ngunit pansinin na ang karamihan sa mga activities na ito ay konti lang ang para sa pag-aalaga sa sarili, o pagpanatili ng kalusugan. Karamihan ay magkakainan, magchachat, magtututulog, huntahan, mamamasyal na me baong sangkatutak na pagkain. Mangilan ngilan ang activities ay nauukol sa pageexercise.
This vacation, let us do something for our physical health, sa ating kalusugan ng katawan. Anyway, tulad n gating katuwiran, bakasyon ito, pahinga sa mga gawaing opisina, field o pabrika.

Maraming puwedeng gawin, ang ganda ng corniche para magjogging at magexercise, malawak ang beach sa Eastern Province para magswimming, maraming bundok ng buhangin na kaigaigayang akyatin, maraming basketball at tennis courts, at iba pang lugar na di tayo gagastos para makapagexercise. And when I say exercise, 9 days ito na puwede nating gawin.

Of course sasabihin natin na sa field ay puro banat ng buto na tayo, tapos ngayong bakasyon makakapahinga na nga e banat buto pa rin. Exercise means fun. Iba kaysa trabaho.

And treat yourself to meals of gulay at isda this vacation. You have all the time para magluto. Di ka naghahabol ng oras ng pagpasok.

No kabsa. No broasted. No laham. No bulalo. No biryani.

Give your health a chance to smile.

—000—

“Well, I want to eat and drink things natural. I wanna be fit and strong. I don’t want to break down after half a day. I wanna keep up all day long….naturally.” – Bryan Schellinger

CHEATERS. GRABBERS.

Tinawag ako ng me ari ng kompanya isang umaga at pinagusapan namin ang tungkol sa itinatag na bagong kompanya. Ang bagong kompanya ay bilang tugon sa desisyon ng pamahalaan ng Saudi Arabia na tugunan ang mga problemang hinaharap ng mga Employers at Expat Workers, tulad halimbawa ng mga incompetents na matataas ang position, pandaraya ng employees at pagtakas (e kasi nga manloloko pag nabisto tatakas).

Sa isang banda naman, ito ay naglalayon naman na maprotektahan ang Expats sa mga mapagsamantalang employers, lalo na ang mga nasa mabababang position tulad ng Housemaid, Househelps, Driver, Laborers, at iba pa. Ang magkokontrol ng relasyong Labor-Employee ay tulad ng aming bagong kompanya. Halimbawa, kung di ka pinapasahod on time, gagawan nila ng action dahil naka hook up sila sa Minstry of Labor, at iba pang ahensiya ng pamahalaan.

Inatasan ako ng me ari na siyasatin ang mga documents na nadraft na nila, at pinagdesign niya ako ng logo, company profile, at iba pang marketing and promotional literatures.

Kinabukasan, I went to the office ng me ari at nadatnan ko roon ang isa naming Sr Officer A although ibang bansa pero lahing Arabo. Nai-email ko na actually iyon sa me ari at sumagot siya na magusap daw kami. He told me na maganda ang ginawa ko at nakuha ko ang concept na gusto niya. Meron lang ilang irerevise lalo na sa logo. Sumingit si Sr Officer A, “ahh very good, you really followed my advise yesterday.” Diyos mio, tinuruan pala niya ako na gawin iyon. Talk about being cheap. Then, sabi ko sa me ari okay, ayusin ko in 30 minutes kasi me meeting pa ako sa labas.

After 30 minutes, bumalik ako sa office niya. Naroon naman ang isa pang Sr. Officer B galling sa isang bansa sa North Africa, pero sinuwerte na maconvert na Saudi. I showed the new draft to me ari, and immediately Sr. Officer B exclaimed, “yes, that is exactly what I told you to do when you consulted me five minutes ago.” Aba e harap – harapan kung pumapel talaga.

That’s how it is in this country, particularly ang mga lahing ito. They live sa pangungulimbat ng kaalaman at kakayahan ng iba. Mula nang dumating ang dalawang ito, nagkandahetot hetot na ang kompanya.

What is revolting is the way they grab credit and throw fall guys sa kawalan nila ng alam.

Nagsasalita kasi ng lengguwahe nila at magaling bomola.

I still believe in the law of Karma.

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“So you run and you run to catch up with the sun but it’s sinking. Racing around to come up behind you again.  The sun is the same in a relative way but you’re older, Shorter of breath and one day closer to death.” – Pink Floyd

What’s your APPS?

APPS ang tawag sa computer program designed to run on smartphones, tablet computers and other mobile devices. 2008 ng lumabas ang tinatawag na application distribution platforms tulad ng App Store, Google Play, Windows Phone Store, and BlackBerry App World. Me mga APPS na libre meron namang may bayad at nailoload ito sa mga devices uch as an iPhone, BlackBerry, Android phone or Windows Phone, but sometimes they can be downloaded to laptops or desktop computers.

Noong una napansin ko na ang mga APPS ay nakafocus sa email, calendar, data banking, contacts, weather, stocks, news, then it evolved into games, GPS, tapos banking, ticketing, order tracking, me online shopping na, at sari-saring APPS sa anumang pangangailangan at higit sa lahat ay ang social media.

Lahat halos tayo ay nahuhumaling sa Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, YM, Skype, Foursquare, WhatsApp, Viber, Tango, at iba pa.

Naaddict tayo sa Farmville, Cityville, Angry Birds, Candy Crush, Farm Pet Saga, Farm Heroes, at iba pa..

Natulungan tayo ng mga APPS for healthy living like Charity Miles, Sleep Cycle, Vision Test, iHeart Rate at marami pa.

Na enlighten tayo sa Ang Bibliya, namotivate tayo sa AppAdvise, Lift, Habit List, Carrot, at mga business APPS tulad ng Evernote, Bump, Tripit, Local Vox, at napakarami pa.

Living in this APPS world however has its setback particularly sa ating paguugali at sa ating relationship sa ating community. While it is true that these APPS connect us to the world, keep us informed of the whereabouts of our friends, love, etc and guided us in our business, lives and somehow to a point that it has controlled our perception of life (example: APPS called Taking Control of Your Life), it has practically alienated us to the real meaning of life. Naging virtual ang ating relationship.. from MWAH MWAH, ILY, IMU to LOL, ROFL, BRB, GTG.

We abbreviate life. We rush on anything. We try to grab everything. We rely on APPS. We have become virtual people in this world.

We try to simplify life by relying on APPS. However, we turn this life’s status to “It’s complicated”.

We digress enjoyment of “real feel” life with God as our guide to “simulated life” with APPS as our director.

I remember when I was invited to a birthday celebration of a friend here in Al Khobar and I joined some kids who were fiddling on their tablets. They were so busy playing games and I asked them:

“Have you tried Hiking, Camping or Mountain Trekking? It’s real fun!” I told them.

They answered me in unison “What is the name of the APPS?”

God bless us! (Real God. Not APPS)

—000—
“I’m high def and I’m proud of it and tivo doesn’t skip a bit if I fall asleep I know that I won’t ever miss a thing rewind, record and slow mo satellite and digital cable wi-fi, I’m high speed got a Brooks & Dunn Ringtone, : – Paul Brandt