THE ROSE WITHIN US

A certain man planted a rose and watered it faithfully and before it blossomed, he examined it.

He saw the bud that would soon blossom, but noticed thorns upon the stem and he thought, “How can any beautiful flower come from a plant burdened with so many sharp thorns? Saddened by this thought, he neglected to water the rose, and just before it was ready to bloom… it died.

So it is with many people. Within every soul there is a rose. The God-like qualities planted in us at birth, grow amid the thorns of our faults. Many of us look at ourselves and see only the thorns, the defects.

We despair, thinking that nothing good can possibly come from us. We neglect to water the good within us, and eventually it dies. We never realize our potential.

Some people do not see the rose within themselves; someone else must show it to them. One of the greatest gifts a person can possess is to be able to reach past the thorns of another, and find the rose within them.

This is one of the characteristic of love… to look at a person, know their true faults and accepting that person into your life… all the while recognizing the nobility in their soul.

Help others to realize they can overcome their faults. If we show them the “rose” within themselves, they will conquer their thorns. Only then will they blossom many times over.

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“You’re beautiful. You’re beautiful. You’re beautiful, it’s true. There must be an angel with a smile on her face, and I don’t know what to do.” – James Blunt

WE ONLY GET WHAT WE GIVE

Tatlumpong  empleyado ng ABC Co. ay umattend ng isang Seminar.

Sa gitna ng discussions, isa isa silang binigyan ng Ping-pong balls ng speaker at pinasulat ang mga pangalan, bago ito ay kinolekta at inilagay sa kalapit na kuwarto ang mga bola ng pingpong. 

Pinapasok ang mga empleyado at inatasan na hanapin ang ping-pong balls na may kani-kanilang pangalan sa loob ng 5 minutes.

Lahat ay nagmamadaling nagmamadaling hinanap ang kani-kanilang pingpong balls. Gapang dito, dakma doon, dapa rito, tulak doon, agaw rito, bangga roon, nagkakatulakan, nagkakatapakan at nagkakagulo pero wala sinumang nakakuha ng kanilang bola in 5 minutes. 

 

Pagkaraka ay inatasan ng speaker ang lahat na kumuha ng tig-iisang pingpong ball at ibigay kung kanino ang nakapangalan doon. Walang isang minuto ay nakuha ng bawat isa ang kani-kanilang bola ng pingpong.

Ito ang totoong nangyayari sa ating buhay. Lahat tayo ay naghahanap ng kaligayahan sa buhay ng di natin nalalaman kung saan ito hahanapin.. pupulutin, but for the most part, it is a little self-centered. Ang tao kasi by nature ay inuunang isipin ang sarili, base sa ating instinct of self preservation. Iyong nasa survival mode lagi at narereinforce pa ito ng mga kagawian na pagbibigay ng sino ang mataas, malaki, magaling… no. 1.

Ang ating kaligayahan ay nasa kaligayahan ng ibang tao. Bigyan nating ng happiness ang ibang tao at ating matatagpuan ang ating kaligayahan. Ang pag-iimbot at ang paghahangad na mauna, makalamang at makaangat sa iba ang naglalayo sa atin sa tunay na kaligayahan.

At ito ang kabuluhan ng human life.

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“This world is gonna pull through. Don’t give up. You’ve got a reason to live. Can’t forget. We only get what we give. ” – The Radicals
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HA? ANO RAW?

Habang ang wika ay nag-ievolve may mga salita na kanya kanya tayo ng kahulugan. Sometimes gumagawa tayo ng sariling salita na iniaangkop natin sa sitwasyon o nais nating ipahiwatig.

Naalala ko ang kaklase ko noong College, ang tawag niya sa “PENMANSHIP” ay “PERMANSHIP”. Kinocorrect ko siya, pero sabi nya mas tama ang “PERMANSHIP” kaysa sa “PENMANSHIP”.

I asked him, bakit niya nasabi. “Ano ba iyan sa Tagalog?” ang kanyang tanong.

“PIRMA!” wika ko.

“O diba, kaya nga PERMANSHIP, kasi PIRMA nga sa tagalog… kuhang kuha na di ba?” ang pakli niya.

Ewan ko after almost more than 30 years ay ganun pa rin ang alam niya.

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Another ay iyong aking barkada noong bata pa ako. Naglalaro kami sa salas ng kanilang bahay ng tawagin siya ng kanyang Tatay.

“Anak, pakilipat mo nga dito sa kusina ang “COMFORTABLE TV” para makapanuod habang nagluluto ang Nanay mo,” utos ng Tatay niya.

Hindi ako nakatiis. Sabi ko baka po “PORTABLE TV”.

Sinagot ako ng “e di ba ang TV na iyan ang magaan at KOMPORTABLENG dalhin kahit saan?” ang kanyang tanong.

“Opo!” ang sagot ko.

“E kaya nga tawag diyan ay COMFORTABLE TV, napakakomportable. Ikaw talaga, nagmamarunong ka pa sa matanda.” ang asik niya sa akin.

Sana ang barkada ko, anak at apo niya ay COMFORTABLE sa panunod ng TV ngayon.

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“And sometimes it seems that all I have do is worry. Then you’re bound to see my other side. But I’m just a soul whose intentions are good. Oh Lord, please don’t let me be misunderstood. ” – Santa Esmeralda

FAILURES ARE LOVERS OF BLAMES

I received a list of motivational items in an email from my Boss before New Year, but what caught my attention was the last piece on the list, “Lead Without a Title”.

I guess it was taken out of the inspiring book of Robin Sharma, and I can feel my Boss’ intention in sharing it to us.

It is a big dogma for some people that to lead means to have a title. And to have a title means to have power, the power to command, make orders and be engulfed in some egoistic whims and caprices. Nowhere was leadership in the context of this zone of attitude.

Ang isa pang nagiging resulta ay ang pagiging arrogant ng mga tao na me titulo, gusto sila ang laging masusunod at sila ang tama. For every failure that he gets, or the organization he supposed to leads fall into, he blame others.

Madalas ko na naoobserbahan na iyan, gagawa ng isang kautusan and isang me katungkulan, pag me nakipagtalo, galit nag alit, tapos ipapasunod ang gusto niya without listening to others’ side.

Pag nagfail, blame dito, blame doon. Tanggal dito, tanggal doon. And proclaim, lahat sila mali. Ako ang tama. How many times have I experienced that, kahit sa mga dati kong organization. People want to hold title, not to lead, but to have power… to command, but not to take responsibilities.. to get credit, but not accountable for errors. Very political.

A Leader is not a Boss whose assistance to his subordinates is only to tell them they are not doing right, but how can he support to do things right.

And it starts by showing RESPECT. This is the cornerstone of being a Leader.

Leading without a title is a great neutralizer to those incompetent, unprofessional, disrespectful and power hungry title holders. The former speaks of inspiration, while the latter talks of desperation.

“Leadership is not a popularity contest; it’s about leaving your ego at the door. The name of the game is to lead without a title.” – Robin Sharma

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“Sometimes it’s hard to just keep going. But faith is moving without knowing. Can I trust what I can’t see?. To reach my destiny
I want to take control but I know better.” – Fireflight

ANG AMA: NOON AT NGAYON

Mabilis talagang lumipas ang panahon. Kasabay ng paglipas ay ang pagbabago ng mga sitwasyon, kaugalian, at ang istilo ng pagiging ama. Ilan sa mga pagbabagong ito ay nakakatawang nakasaad sa ibaba:

Noon: Kapag ang ama ay nakapagpatayo ng simpleng bahay, siya ay mahusay na ama.
Ngayon: Para matawag na mahusay na ama dapat ay makapagpatayo siya ng bahay, na may swimming pool, may 2 kotse, may malaking garahe, may malawak na hardin. At bahay bakasyunan pa lang iyan.

Noon: Tinuturuan ng tatay ang anak na magbasketball, magbaseball, magswimming, magChess.
Ngayon: Tinuturuan ng mga anak ang tatay  kung paano maglaro ng Clash of Clan, ng Baldur’s Gate, Badland o kahit na Candy Crush.

Noon: Bibilhan ng tatay ng baril-barilan ang anak at ito ay umaapaw na sa tuwa.
Ngayon: Bibilhan ng tatay laruang tig P10,000 ang anak, at sasagot ang anak ng “Nasaan ang aking X-Box?”

Noon: Hinihintay ng mga anak ang ama galing trabaho para sabay-sabay maghapunan.
Ngayon: Hihinintay ng ama ang mga anak para maghapunan. Si Boyet ay nasa kabarkada, si Nora ay nasa party, si Gerry ay nasa gym. At ang bunso ay sasabihin, “may sinaing na riyan Pa, ang ulam ay nasa ref.. bahala na kayong mag-init.. mauna ka na po at nanunuod pa kami ni Nanay ng Pangako sa Iyo”

Noon: PInapangko ng tatay ang anak para makapanuod ng husto ng palabas.
Ngayon: Itinutulak ng anak ang wheelchair ng ama papuntang salas para makapanood ng show sa TV.

Noon: Hindi pinapatikim ang anak ng alak hanggat hindi ito nakakatapos ng pagaaral.
Ngayon: Hindi nag-aaral ang anak hanggat hindi nakakatapos mag-inom.

Noon: Pawisan ang ama pagtulong sa pagluluto ng handa sa birthday ng anak.
Ngayon: Pawisan ang ama pagdukot ng pagbabayad sa restawrang pinagdausan ng birthday ng anak.

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“Where do I find the words to say?. How do I teach him?. What do we play?Bit by bit, I’ve realized. That’s when I need them,. That’s when I need my father’s eyes.”  – Eric Clapton

NANAY MADE ME STRONG

I sincerely believe Nanay wanted me to do anything the best I can do and she always tried to give me the sense of confidence I should muster in myself.  She wanted me to be independent, to be strong, for that made her also strong.

In my younger days, I was so dependent on her, on everything I did, everything I decided and planned. She had embedded in me the attitude of perseverance and patience, while from Tatay the attitude of doing everything the right way… morally and spiritually whilst keeping forgiveness in my heart..

Nanay left us after a couple of months Tatay died in 1979, showing up after a year in our University with problem in her eyes. I was on scholarships plus doing some odd jobs that time, so I got savings to have her treated and stayed with me for a few months until she was totally healed. By mid-December, she told me we’ll spend Christmas in my sister’s house in Rizal and she got to be there early. I promised I will follow her there.

She never did. She was gone. All that’s left is a question. Why?

I tried looking for her, but she’s gone like a wisp of air. After 18 years, she just appeared in my sister’s home. Even if the place had changed a lot, she managed to get there, sick. half paralyzed. I took her and  had her treated, recovering through the patient watch and care of my family.

I could see the connection in everything that had happened to me. I could see the role my mother had played in making me stand on my own.. in making me strong. Had she not left us, I would not be this kind of person now. I would not have studied harder, worked harder, dreamed larger.

The attitude has  changed from “we missed Nanay because she’s gone and we were orphans who tried to survive in deep and vast ocean” to “Nanay missed us all those years that she was alone, she’s living out a lonely life to teach us how to be strong.”

It’s not too late for any of us.  We just have to embrace an understanding that life may be very different from anything we’ve ever heard of. Think about the disciples who followed Jesus into a whole new way of thinking and seeing their world?  They came to an understanding, and they had to step out into a new direction, no matter what the consequences might be.

Other people may judge my mother too quickly for what happened to us. Judgment are theirs, I have my mother. And I love her so much. And I am thankful to God for giving my mother another birthday.. and lots more to come.

This is for you Nanay:

I say a little prayer for you Nanay
to thank the Lord above
for blessing me with a lifetime
of your unselfish love.

I thanked God for the caring
you’ve shown me through the years,
for the bond of life we enjoyed
in time of laughter and of tears.

My sincerest thank to you Nanay
for all you’ve done for me
and I thank God for giving me
the best mother there could be!

—000—

“You showed me. When I was young just how to grow. You showed me. Everything that I should know. You showed me. Just how to walk without your hands. Cuz mom you always were. The perfect fan.” – The Backstreet Boyz

DON’T JUST PRAY. ACT!

I went to Riyadh last week for some meetings and clear outs sa issues sa ilan naming customers. Pero bago iyon, pumunta muna ako sa isang Oil Drill Site sa Khurais to verify some information, specifications at mga sukat sukat sa dinidesign naming Pump Change Unit sa paglilinis ng drill pipes and casing.

Dumating ako sa Riyadh ng gabi na and booked a room sa Hotel sa me Batha, ang Divisoria ng Riyadh. I was expecting na ang ilang friends kong Engineers sa Riyadh Refinery will join me for dinner, kaya lang nagfield daw sila at pagod na pagod. Mag-isa akong pumasok sa isang Pinoy Restaurant at nabungaran ko kaagad ang weakness ko… gintaang langka.

Tuwing weekends lang ako nagkakanin at mga ilang kutsara lang, pero dahil sa langka at bangus ay muntik ko na maubos ang isang serving ng kanin (mind you ang pantakal ay mangkok).  I strolled in the area, bought some anik anik, nag tea and called it a night. Kinabukasan, parang bloated pakiramdam ko. I checked out at 7:30 AM, kasi dere-deretso mga meetings ko from 9 AM to 4 PM. Pagdaan ko sa isang Pinoy Restaurant, nakita ko ang almusal ay pinoy na pinoy. I decided to take Tocilog. Full again ako.

Before my first meeting, sumasakit na ang tiyan ko. At naiihi ako. Ganun din sa mga sumunod na meetings.  Ang sama na ng pakiramdam ko. Ang sakit ng tyan, matigas, humihilab at ihi ng ihi. I was contemplating on staying at magpabukas na, but I thought paano kung me mangyari sa akin? I was 435 kms from Khobar.

I decided na mag-inut inot pag-uwi. Habang daan, di ko alam kung ano ang gagawin. I have to drive home, I have to do it. I stopped at a gas station – 325 kms to go pa, filled up, peed, called my son na antabayanan ako and prayed. I told God, “napakasakit God, parang di ko kaya, please grant me clear vision inspite of the pain, a steady hand on the wheel, inspite of the spasm, and a cool mind to decide on the road inspite of the frequent pee.”

I arrived home still in pain, nakatulog agad ako. The pain remained, so I went to the Hospital for check up and treatment.

I was subjected to KUB, Abdominal XRay and Ultrasound (2x).

Clear.

The doctor gave me a double dose of Dolculax. The following morning I’m fine. I was able to job and played 3 games of good -all -win basketball in the afternoon.

Lessons:

  1. Moderate ang anumang masasarap sa buhay.
  2. God gives us challenges we need to surpass. Lets face them squarely.
  3. We should not just rely on praying to God. We must act.

God never allows pain without a purpose in the lives of His children. He never wastes pain. He always causes it to work together for our ultimate good, the good of conforming us more to the likeness of His Son.

—000—
“Don’t give up. It’s just the weight of the world. When your heart’s heavy. I…I will lift it for you
Don’t give up. Because you want to be heard. If silence keeps you. I…I will break it for you.” – Josh Groban