FOCUS ON OUR RESPONSIBILITIES NOT RIGHTS

“I’m Starting With The Man In The Mirror
I’m Asking Him To Change His Ways
And No Message Could Have Been Any Clearer
If You Want Make The World A Better Place
Take A Look At Yourself, And Then Make A Change”

No candidate is perfect. However..

Let us not see personalities. Let us not look at a hero. Let us not focus on a knight in a shining armor  who claims he can save us from the wretchedness in our country. Let us not see a parent who will put Band Aid or Curitas in our small wounds. Let us not admire someone whose answer to criminality is killing. Let us not allow history changers. Let us abhor cursing, adultery and hooliganism for it will send a message to new generation that these are normal and better than being patient, sincere and understanding. Let us kick out thieves who pose like saints during elections.  Let us not listen to glib talkers who avoid the issues and instead tell us of his achievements and experiences.

Let us see the macro management capability, a city is not a country. Let us see connections, machinery and diplomatic experience, our President represents us internationally both in foreign trade and politics. Let us see  the desire to act on a “sense of duty” not by desire to achieve personal or political ambition. Let us see a leader, his sense of persuasion, refraining from use of power to silence offenders but persuading them to change. Let us see somebody who can provide the “fish rod” not the “fish” (dole-outs) to our people.

Let us choose a leader who will invest in building bridges, not walls. Books, not weapons. Morality, not corruption. Intellectualism and wisdom, not ignorance. Stability, not fear and terror. Peace, not chaos. Love, not hate. Convergence, not segregation. Tolerance, not discrimination. Fairness, not hypocrisy. Substance, not superficiality. Character, not immaturity. Transparency, not secrecy. Justice, not lawlessness. Environmental improvement and preservation, not destruction. Truth, not lies.

Let us see ourselves. Let us see OBLIGASYON rather than KARAPATAN. Let us see PAGSUNOD SA BATAS rather than PAGPAPATUPAD NG BATAS. Who needs the police, the tanods, the judges, to catch “lumalabag sa batas” when all of us are “sumusunod sa batas”.

We always WANT SOMEBODY TO CLEAN UP THE MESS THAT WE CREATE. No President will succeed if the populace will not start cleaning its act.

The development must come from us. And when the new president gets elected, whoever he is, let us support him and do our share. Let us all correct our faults as citizens. Let us be responsible. Let us do what we can for our country not what these candidates can do for us.

Change starts from RESPECT.

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”I’m not afraid . To take a stand. Everybody. Come take my hand. We’ll walk this road together, through the storm. Whatever weather, cold or warm. Just letting you know that you’re not alone. Holler if you feel like you’ve been down the same road” – Eminem

I’VE GOT A LOT TO BE THANKFUL TO SAUDI ARABIA

Those of us working here in Saudi were often looked down sa pinas, sometimes you’ll hear remarks like “Saudi ka lang pala” or “Bakit ka nagtitiyaga roon”? Mas preferred ng karamihan pag sinabing Middle east ay sa Dubai, Abu Dhabi, Qatar, Bahrain just for one reason.. masyado raw mahigpit ang Saudi. Maraming bawal. Masama raw ugali ng mga Saudis.

Depende lang iyon sa attitude at kung ano ang nais sa buhay ng isang worker. Kaya tayo nag-abroad at nagsasakripisyo ay dahil nais natin ang kumita ng maayos at makaipon. Dito, the place itself will discipline you, makakaiwas ka sa mga unnecessary na pagkakagastusan at sa mga bisyo.

I have a lot to be grateful sa bansang ito not only in terms of earnings:

  1. Bawal ang bisyo dito.. Alak, Babae, Sugal, Droga – nakafocus ka sa work. Nakafocus ka sa mga gawaing pangdevelop ng sarili mo at sa pamilya mo. Puwera na lang kung naghahanap ka pa rin ng mga layaw ng katawan na iyan. Isa ka sa kapag nahuli, ay sisigaw na nang kung gaano kasama ang mga Saudis, o tatalakan ang gobyerno na walang ginagawa para sa mga manggagawa. Bawal na nga gusto mo pa gawin.
  2. Medical Care – lahat ng workers ay may Medical Insurance. Wide ang coverage. Everyone is taken cared of.
  3. Tax Free – ang earning mo ay tax free, di binabawasan ng gobyerno rito.
  4. Minimal ang nakawan – ikompara mo sa pinas, nakakakain ka sa restaurant na nakahambalang ang iyong gadgets, ang bag, ang wallet na hindi mawawala. Maglakad ka sa kalsada, pumunta ka sa malls o mataong lugar, di ka magaalalang madudukutan (kalaban mo lang ay ang amoy putok… hehe)
  5. Cost of living ay mababa – compared sa ibang Middle East countries, ang bilihin dito ay mas mura. Sa pagkain lalo na. Ang aking basehan sa pagkain saan man ako pumunta ay ang presyo ng Big Mac Meal. Sa ngayon ay $3.20 dito sa Saudi, sa UAE ay $3.54, Qatar ay $3.50, US ay $4.93, Canada ay $4.14, Bahrain ay $3.50 (please see http://www.statista.com/statistics/274326/big-mac-index-global-prices-for-a-big-mac/). Renta ng bahay, gasoline, gasul, tubig ay mas mababa.
  6. Bihira ang violence – compared sa pinas na normal ang sapakan, batukan, suntukan, barilan, saksakan, dito ang pinakamatinding away ay sigawan. Takot na manakit ng kapuwa kasi ebidensya iyon against the aggressor.
  7. Well maintained ang mga public parks and facilities – makakapagjogging ka, makakapagexercise, makakapagswimming, makakapagpicnic or simply meditate ng maayos.
  8. Benefits – mandatory ang accommodation or housing allowance, transportation or transportation allowance, GOSI, medical care, paid leaves, end of service award, family status na libre ang pamasahe, visa at covered ng medical care.

Iyong point no. 4 ay may karanasan ako. I lost my wallet three years ago with my Residence Identity Card, Aramco Card, ATM, Medical Card and some amount of money were there) were returned to me. Yung nakapulot ay gumawa pa ng paraan para makontak ako. Wala akong calling card na nakaipit, nakita niya ang calling card ng Doctor ko, tinawagan niya at ibinigay ng Doctor ang aking number. At wala ni isa mang nawala sa aking wallet. Please read:  https://clinquantlife.wordpress.com/2013/02/14/this-happened-to-me-reposted-from-fb/

As I said, the problem lies in our attitude.I found that Saudis are generally friendly, generous and hospitable people and not like the stereotypes you might have been told at.

Ang totoo niyan, kung ano ang nakukuha nating bentahe sa pagtatrabaho sa Saudi compare sa Pinas ay siya ring bentahe na nakukuha natin sa ibang bansa. Nagkakaiba lang sa kultura, kaugalian at pamamalakad ng pamahalaan.

May kasabihang “when you are in Rome, do what the Romans do..” Para lang iyang nakikipanuluyan ka sa ibang bahay, sundin mo ang patakaran sa bahay na iyon.

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“Wanna thank you. Freedom in stride, love, peace of mind. We just wanna give Gratitude
Got plenty love we wanna give to you. With good music and we’re tryin’ to say. That the Good Lord’s gonna make a way. ” – Earth, Wind and Fire

THE ROSE WITHIN US

A certain man planted a rose and watered it faithfully and before it blossomed, he examined it.

He saw the bud that would soon blossom, but noticed thorns upon the stem and he thought, “How can any beautiful flower come from a plant burdened with so many sharp thorns? Saddened by this thought, he neglected to water the rose, and just before it was ready to bloom… it died.

So it is with many people. Within every soul there is a rose. The God-like qualities planted in us at birth, grow amid the thorns of our faults. Many of us look at ourselves and see only the thorns, the defects.

We despair, thinking that nothing good can possibly come from us. We neglect to water the good within us, and eventually it dies. We never realize our potential.

Some people do not see the rose within themselves; someone else must show it to them. One of the greatest gifts a person can possess is to be able to reach past the thorns of another, and find the rose within them.

This is one of the characteristic of love… to look at a person, know their true faults and accepting that person into your life… all the while recognizing the nobility in their soul.

Help others to realize they can overcome their faults. If we show them the “rose” within themselves, they will conquer their thorns. Only then will they blossom many times over.

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“You’re beautiful. You’re beautiful. You’re beautiful, it’s true. There must be an angel with a smile on her face, and I don’t know what to do.” – James Blunt

WE ONLY GET WHAT WE GIVE

Tatlumpong  empleyado ng ABC Co. ay umattend ng isang Seminar.

Sa gitna ng discussions, isa isa silang binigyan ng Ping-pong balls ng speaker at pinasulat ang mga pangalan, bago ito ay kinolekta at inilagay sa kalapit na kuwarto ang mga bola ng pingpong. 

Pinapasok ang mga empleyado at inatasan na hanapin ang ping-pong balls na may kani-kanilang pangalan sa loob ng 5 minutes.

Lahat ay nagmamadaling nagmamadaling hinanap ang kani-kanilang pingpong balls. Gapang dito, dakma doon, dapa rito, tulak doon, agaw rito, bangga roon, nagkakatulakan, nagkakatapakan at nagkakagulo pero wala sinumang nakakuha ng kanilang bola in 5 minutes. 

 

Pagkaraka ay inatasan ng speaker ang lahat na kumuha ng tig-iisang pingpong ball at ibigay kung kanino ang nakapangalan doon. Walang isang minuto ay nakuha ng bawat isa ang kani-kanilang bola ng pingpong.

Ito ang totoong nangyayari sa ating buhay. Lahat tayo ay naghahanap ng kaligayahan sa buhay ng di natin nalalaman kung saan ito hahanapin.. pupulutin, but for the most part, it is a little self-centered. Ang tao kasi by nature ay inuunang isipin ang sarili, base sa ating instinct of self preservation. Iyong nasa survival mode lagi at narereinforce pa ito ng mga kagawian na pagbibigay ng sino ang mataas, malaki, magaling… no. 1.

Ang ating kaligayahan ay nasa kaligayahan ng ibang tao. Bigyan nating ng happiness ang ibang tao at ating matatagpuan ang ating kaligayahan. Ang pag-iimbot at ang paghahangad na mauna, makalamang at makaangat sa iba ang naglalayo sa atin sa tunay na kaligayahan.

At ito ang kabuluhan ng human life.

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“This world is gonna pull through. Don’t give up. You’ve got a reason to live. Can’t forget. We only get what we give. ” – The Radicals
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HA? ANO RAW?

Habang ang wika ay nag-ievolve may mga salita na kanya kanya tayo ng kahulugan. Sometimes gumagawa tayo ng sariling salita na iniaangkop natin sa sitwasyon o nais nating ipahiwatig.

Naalala ko ang kaklase ko noong College, ang tawag niya sa “PENMANSHIP” ay “PERMANSHIP”. Kinocorrect ko siya, pero sabi nya mas tama ang “PERMANSHIP” kaysa sa “PENMANSHIP”.

I asked him, bakit niya nasabi. “Ano ba iyan sa Tagalog?” ang kanyang tanong.

“PIRMA!” wika ko.

“O diba, kaya nga PERMANSHIP, kasi PIRMA nga sa tagalog… kuhang kuha na di ba?” ang pakli niya.

Ewan ko after almost more than 30 years ay ganun pa rin ang alam niya.

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Another ay iyong aking barkada noong bata pa ako. Naglalaro kami sa salas ng kanilang bahay ng tawagin siya ng kanyang Tatay.

“Anak, pakilipat mo nga dito sa kusina ang “COMFORTABLE TV” para makapanuod habang nagluluto ang Nanay mo,” utos ng Tatay niya.

Hindi ako nakatiis. Sabi ko baka po “PORTABLE TV”.

Sinagot ako ng “e di ba ang TV na iyan ang magaan at KOMPORTABLENG dalhin kahit saan?” ang kanyang tanong.

“Opo!” ang sagot ko.

“E kaya nga tawag diyan ay COMFORTABLE TV, napakakomportable. Ikaw talaga, nagmamarunong ka pa sa matanda.” ang asik niya sa akin.

Sana ang barkada ko, anak at apo niya ay COMFORTABLE sa panunod ng TV ngayon.

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“And sometimes it seems that all I have do is worry. Then you’re bound to see my other side. But I’m just a soul whose intentions are good. Oh Lord, please don’t let me be misunderstood. ” – Santa Esmeralda

FAILURES ARE LOVERS OF BLAMES

I received a list of motivational items in an email from my Boss before New Year, but what caught my attention was the last piece on the list, “Lead Without a Title”.

I guess it was taken out of the inspiring book of Robin Sharma, and I can feel my Boss’ intention in sharing it to us.

It is a big dogma for some people that to lead means to have a title. And to have a title means to have power, the power to command, make orders and be engulfed in some egoistic whims and caprices. Nowhere was leadership in the context of this zone of attitude.

Ang isa pang nagiging resulta ay ang pagiging arrogant ng mga tao na me titulo, gusto sila ang laging masusunod at sila ang tama. For every failure that he gets, or the organization he supposed to leads fall into, he blame others.

Madalas ko na naoobserbahan na iyan, gagawa ng isang kautusan and isang me katungkulan, pag me nakipagtalo, galit nag alit, tapos ipapasunod ang gusto niya without listening to others’ side.

Pag nagfail, blame dito, blame doon. Tanggal dito, tanggal doon. And proclaim, lahat sila mali. Ako ang tama. How many times have I experienced that, kahit sa mga dati kong organization. People want to hold title, not to lead, but to have power… to command, but not to take responsibilities.. to get credit, but not accountable for errors. Very political.

A Leader is not a Boss whose assistance to his subordinates is only to tell them they are not doing right, but how can he support to do things right.

And it starts by showing RESPECT. This is the cornerstone of being a Leader.

Leading without a title is a great neutralizer to those incompetent, unprofessional, disrespectful and power hungry title holders. The former speaks of inspiration, while the latter talks of desperation.

“Leadership is not a popularity contest; it’s about leaving your ego at the door. The name of the game is to lead without a title.” – Robin Sharma

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“Sometimes it’s hard to just keep going. But faith is moving without knowing. Can I trust what I can’t see?. To reach my destiny
I want to take control but I know better.” – Fireflight

ANG AMA: NOON AT NGAYON

Mabilis talagang lumipas ang panahon. Kasabay ng paglipas ay ang pagbabago ng mga sitwasyon, kaugalian, at ang istilo ng pagiging ama. Ilan sa mga pagbabagong ito ay nakakatawang nakasaad sa ibaba:

Noon: Kapag ang ama ay nakapagpatayo ng simpleng bahay, siya ay mahusay na ama.
Ngayon: Para matawag na mahusay na ama dapat ay makapagpatayo siya ng bahay, na may swimming pool, may 2 kotse, may malaking garahe, may malawak na hardin. At bahay bakasyunan pa lang iyan.

Noon: Tinuturuan ng tatay ang anak na magbasketball, magbaseball, magswimming, magChess.
Ngayon: Tinuturuan ng mga anak ang tatay  kung paano maglaro ng Clash of Clan, ng Baldur’s Gate, Badland o kahit na Candy Crush.

Noon: Bibilhan ng tatay ng baril-barilan ang anak at ito ay umaapaw na sa tuwa.
Ngayon: Bibilhan ng tatay laruang tig P10,000 ang anak, at sasagot ang anak ng “Nasaan ang aking X-Box?”

Noon: Hinihintay ng mga anak ang ama galing trabaho para sabay-sabay maghapunan.
Ngayon: Hihinintay ng ama ang mga anak para maghapunan. Si Boyet ay nasa kabarkada, si Nora ay nasa party, si Gerry ay nasa gym. At ang bunso ay sasabihin, “may sinaing na riyan Pa, ang ulam ay nasa ref.. bahala na kayong mag-init.. mauna ka na po at nanunuod pa kami ni Nanay ng Pangako sa Iyo”

Noon: PInapangko ng tatay ang anak para makapanuod ng husto ng palabas.
Ngayon: Itinutulak ng anak ang wheelchair ng ama papuntang salas para makapanood ng show sa TV.

Noon: Hindi pinapatikim ang anak ng alak hanggat hindi ito nakakatapos ng pagaaral.
Ngayon: Hindi nag-aaral ang anak hanggat hindi nakakatapos mag-inom.

Noon: Pawisan ang ama pagtulong sa pagluluto ng handa sa birthday ng anak.
Ngayon: Pawisan ang ama pagdukot ng pagbabayad sa restawrang pinagdausan ng birthday ng anak.

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“Where do I find the words to say?. How do I teach him?. What do we play?Bit by bit, I’ve realized. That’s when I need them,. That’s when I need my father’s eyes.”  – Eric Clapton