CONDESCENDING

There was a successful businessman na ginugol na ang kanyang oras sa pagpapalago ng negosyo that he was so occupied at umabot na siya sa edad na 45 ay di pa nagkaroon ng girlfriend.

One day, he felt that he needed to have a wife, but hindi niya alam kung papaano. He called his personal adviser and and after a lengthy discussion, he gave him instruction, “find me a beautiful girl whom I will marry and will be the mother of my children.”

His adviser looked for one, told the purpose of meeting his Boss and arranged a date with him.

Noong nagdidinner na sila ng girl, sinabi ni Businessman:”Alam mo, you stunned me, and I think you are the right girl for me. However, let me tell you, I am a meticulous person, I study details very well, I weigh everything first before I enter into a contract, bago ko patulan ang isang produkto na gusto kong inegosyo. And the same principle ang gusto kong iapply sa ating paghaharap na ito.”

What do you mean?” ang tanong ng babae.

“Bukod kasi sa masusi kong pag-aaral sa isang produkto, kung paano ko ito mapapakinabangan at kung paano ito makakatulong sa aking negosyo, I test first the product. Which means bago tayo magkasundo, kailangan ay ma-test muna kita.”

Sensing what the businessman wants, sumagot ang babae. “Alam mo ako ay isang de kaledad na produkto, maayos ang lahat ng presentation sa akin, maging ang mga katangian ko. “

“So payag ka na sa requirement ko na ikaw ay aking matesting bago tayo magkasundo?” Excited na tanong ni businessman.

“Sabi ko nga sa iyo, sure na de kaledad ako. Hindi ako papayag na matesting. Pero kung mapilit ka na malaman how good I am, I can give you references.” Ang nakangiting sagot ng babae.


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In life, marami sa atin ang kapag nagkaroon ng position, kayamanan, katanyagan o karangalan ay nagkakaroon ng tendency to look down on other people. Ang tingin ay nasa isang elevated position at minamata ang ibang tao.

Lahat ng tao ay may katangian, may kakayahan at may bagay na mas mahigit pa kesa sa iyo. Maaaring ang taong mababa sa iyong paningin ay dakila naman sa paningin ng iba dahil mas higit silang nakakatouch ng buhay at nakakapagbigay ng aliw at ginhawa.

In fact, looking down o others ay signs ng insecurity at ng inferiority complex. Pinagtatakpan natin ang dalawang ito sa pamamagitan ng pagtingin ng mababa sa ibang tao. Worse, we sometimes ridicule them. Tayo ay magkakapatid sa mundong ito at pare-pareho tayong walang wala ng isinilang, ganun din paglisan natin sa mundong ito.

The world is like a mirror. How we are treated is a reflection of how we treat the world in general. If we see inside ourselves, dig out all the ugly stuff and correct them one by one, we’ll find that the world is a much better and pleasant place to live in.

It takes courage- tonnes of it. But in the end, you will come up being a much better and happier person- that you’ve never thought you are capable to be.

Humility and compassion.

That is what God teaches us.

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“You alone, You can see right through. This glass house we call home You alone, You can take away the pain. Yeah, You have shown, You can break right through this glass house of our souls. Make us whole again, Make us whole.” – RED

NATUTUTO RIN TAYO SA MGA BATA

I always spend quality time with my sons. Quality time means, memorable precious time that will be in their memories as they grow and will be related to their own children. Mga ala-ala ng kanilang kabataan na uulit uliting ikuwento sa kanilang magiging mga anak.

Katulad rin ng aking buhay, marami akong mga magagandang ala-ala ng pagsasamahan naming ng aking ama na inuulit ulit kong ikuwento sa aking mga anak. To the point that sometimes they exclaimed, “pa, nakuwento mo na iyan nung ako ay 7, 9, 12 at 18 years old.

And there are moments ng pagsasamahan ng magkapatid na tayo mismo ang makakaalala at hindi maiwasang mapangiti o minsan ay malungkot. Those days when fun is endless, when caring is bottomless, when love is the binder.

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It is not only the children who learn from their parents, but the parents themselves learn as the children grow. In my own experience, I learned a lot from them:

  1. My children taught me the real meaning of patience. Iyong kakulitan at minsan ay kapilyuhan at talagang susubukan ang iyong pagtitimpi.
  2. I learned that to get them interested na matuto, kailangan pag me aayusin ako sa bahay ay kasama sila. Tagaabot ng martilyo, ng screwdriver, tagasuot sa ilalim.. at me kasamang tuksuhan, pahiran ng grasa sa mukha, tilamsikan ng pawis which made the job more entertaining and exciting.
  3. Natutuhan ko na kapag malapit lang ang pupuntahan, mas maganda ang maglakad. Marami kayong mapapagkuwentuhan habang naglalakad. May kasama pang kantiyawan kapag mabagal ang isa o hinihingal na agad kahit malapit pa lang ang nalalakad.
  4. Ang isa pa ay iyong dapat ay nakakaadapt ako sa mga gusto nilang laro. Lalo na kung involved ang technology. Pero may isang pangyayari na labis ang kasiyahan namin sa paglalaro. Kami ay nagcamping sa Makiling, doon kami natulog sa tent buong maganak, at noong gabi ay naglaro kami ng patintero with other kids at magulang na nagkacamping din.
  5. Higit sa lahat, natuto akong magprepare ng mga kakanin at street foods tulad ng kikiam, fish ball, etc dahil sa kagustuhan ko na sariling preparation para malinis ang pagkain.

This way they learn to appreciate life through their parents. Madalas ko rin silang dinadala sa Smokey Mountain that time, sa mga lugar na may mga street children to make them appreciate their blessings kumpara sa ibang bata. This promote humility at pang-unawa sa iba.

Sabi nga ni Joe J. Christensen “Memory is the one Garden of Eden out of which one need never be cast.’ Good memories are real blessings. Memories with your children are the utmost blessings.

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“Teach your children well, their father’s hell did slowly go by, And feed them on your dreams, the one they fix, the one you’ll know by.” – Crosby, Stills, Nash & Young

IT’S NOT EMOTION, IT’S ALL ABOUT PRINCIPLES SIR!

Matagal na ito, isang araw ay kinausap ako ng isa sa mataas na pinuno ng aming organization dahil sa isang issue which I cannot agree. He is in high pitch voiced (as he always is whenever he is talking to me) and stressed that I am so stubborn. I reasoned that it is not stubbornness but I am riding on my principles.. that I cannot accept a proposition if I feel it is detrimental to the organization. I cannot just say yes, to which he got so irritated. I added further that I am willing to discuss, air my side, willing to listen to his or their side (mga alipores nya) and together weigh down what is really the right thing to do. Pero gusto lang nya marinig sa akin ay “yes”.

Then he blurted, “the problem with you is that you are using your emotions, not reasons, using your heart not your mind..”

I replied, “i am using both reasons and emotions, if not, I would have just said “yes” to you and let the organization suffer. And I could have been out of the organization long time ago if it not for my emotion prevailing over reasons. With my emotion the love for work prevailed over money, that is why I am still here, as oppose to others who follow money which drove them to follow blindly and disregard accountability.”

Ang gusto kasi ay puro yes ang marinig at pag nagsalita ka ng no at nagexplain, emotional ka na.

 

Emotion has its advantages over logic. When you arouse the emotions of people you engage them and take them away from your intention to influence and persuade. It requires less effort than logic, lalo na kung principled ang tao.  Ang mga issues na tinatackle ng may halong emotion means there is a feeling involved, there is accountability, there is pride. Where is pride sa isang tao na pag itinuro mo ang kulay puti, at sinabi mong, “kulay itim ito di ba?” tapos sasagot siya ng “yes, itim nga iyan..” Mapasaya lang ang nagtatanong, mapadikit lang at bumango sa boss kahit na mali ay sasang-ayunan.

The only hitch is that we must know when to create positive or negative emotions. Me mga lahi kasi na ang namamayaning emotion ay ang pagiging makasarili (selfish) and will do anything para makamit nila ang pera at position.

Tapos dinugtungan pa ng mataas na taong ito ng, “kayong mga Pilipino ay masyadong emosyonal..”

Sinagot ko, “hindi iyon emosyon, iyon ay pride… prinsipyo, na di nakukuha sa pagmamahal sa salapi, kundi sa pagmamahal sa sarili at pagtingin sa kung ano ang magagawa at maiaambag sa organisasyon..”

Bottom line, di pa rin niya ako mapapasagot ng “yes” pag sa aking tingin ay hindi tama ang gagawin o ginagawa.

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“I decided long ago. Never to walk in anyone’s shadow. If I fail if I succeed, at least I live as I believe. No matter what what they take from me, they can’t take away my dignity… ” – George Benson

 

GOD KNOCKS ME AND GIVES ME REST

May edad na tayo kaya me mga pagkain na di na dapat kainin or kung gusto ay in moderation laman. Despite na ako ay sagana sa exercise at fish and vegetable ang laging kinakain, me mga pagkakataon na tumitikim din ako ng karne ng manok at baka. Pero kontrang kontra sa akin ang baka at repolyo dahil sa uric acid.

Last weekend, naisipan kong magluto ng goto. Nakakita kasi ako ng tuwalya ng baka sa isang supermarket while I was buying fruits and milk. Tapos last Monday, nung buffet dinner namin sa Movenpick Hotel ay puro gulay din siyempre ako, yung fresh salad di ko napansin na instead of romaine lettuce ay repolyo pala ang nakalagay. Pag-uwi ko ng bahay, naniguro ako. I took medicine for neutralizing Uric acid.

Kinabukasan, me nararamdaman akong slight pain noong umaga, pero nawala naman siya noong hapon. Still I took the medicine. Work and work pa uli at dami ko appointments. Gamot pa rin ako, dahil ang idea ko ay dapat at least 3 days akong continuously iinom nun.

Last night, highly disturbed ako sa pagtulog dahil maya’t maya ang kirot ng paa ko. Worse, paggising ko kanina, di ko maitapak dahil sa sakit at namamaga na ang paa ko.

I stayed in bed, slept and ginising lang ako ng anak ko ng mga 10AM na. Makirot pa rin ang paa ko at di mailakad, pero fresh naman ang pakiramdam ko with the long sleep.

Only then I realized, that God could have given me this pain, para ako ay makapagpahinga. If not, I should have been in front of my computer, doing reports, analysis, researches despite today being a rest day. And I should be jogging, cleaning the room, the kitchen and playing basketball at 4PM.

Pero heto ako, dahil nga di ako makalakad, I had only time to sleep and rest. God works wonders talaga.

At 1PM, my son went to the Pharmacy, and bought Efimenac for the pain and the swelling.

At 5PM, I can walk though paika ika pa.

At 7PM, straight na ang lakad ko.

And fully rested.

“Therefore, Grow in the word to gain mastery in the world.” – Gal 4:1

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“God of wonders beyond our galaxy. You are Holy, Holy. The universe declares your Majesty.” – Chris Tomlin

GOOD DEEDS

Kunin ko ang isang kuwento na nagsasaad how we most of the time see the bad side rather than the good side of people.

A legend tells of a man who used to carry water every day to his village, using two large pitchers tied on either end of a piece of wood, which he placed across his shoulders.

One of the pitchers was older than the other and was full of small cracks; every time the man came back along the path to his house, half of the water was lost.Ӭ

For two years, the man made the same journey. The younger pitcher was always very proud of the way it did its work and was sure that it was up to the task for which it had been created, while the other pitcher was mortally ashamed that it could carry out only half its task, even though it knew that the cracks were the result of long years of work.

So ashamed was the old pitcher that, one day, while the man was preparing to fill it up with water from the well, it decided to speak to him.

“I wish to apologize because, due to my age, you only manage to take home half the water you fill me with, and thus quench only half the thirst awaiting you in your house.”

The man smiled and said:”¨”When we go back, be sure to take a careful look at the path.””¨The pitcher did as the man asked and noticed many flowers and plants growing along one side of the path.

“Do you see how much more beautiful nature is on your side of the road?” the man remarked.

“I knew you had cracks, but I decided to take advantage of them. I sowed vegetables and flowers there, and you always watered them. I’ve picked dozens of roses to decorate my house, and my children have had lettuce, cabbage and onions to eat. If you were not the way you are, I could never have done this. We all, at some point, grow old and acquire other qualities, and these can always be turned to good advantage.”

Napapansin ang ating mabubuting gawa dahil ito ay nasisinag sa ating pagkatao, hindi dahil sa ating pagtatry na ipakita sa iba kung gaano tayo kadakila o kabuting tao. Ang una ay pagpapakumbaba, ang huli ay pagpaparangya o pride which is wrong.

“Kaya nga, kapag naglilimos ka, huwag mo nang ipag-ingay pa gaya ng ginagawa ng mga mapagkunwari. Naglilimos sila sa mga sinagoga at sa mga lansangan upang sila’y mapuri ng mga tao. Tandaan ninyo: tinanggap na nila ang kanilang gantimpala. Sa halip, kapag naglilimos ka, huwag mo nang ipaalam ito sa pinakamatalik mong kaibigan. Gawin mong lihim ang iyong paglilimos at ang iyong Ama na nakakakita ng kabutihang ginagawa mo nang lihim ang siyang magbibigay ng gantimpala sa iyo.” – Mateo 6:2-4

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“People get ready, there’s a train coming. You don’t need no baggage, you just get on board. All you need is faith to hear the diesels hummin’
You don’t need no ticket you just thank the lord. ” – Curtis Mayfield

MGA MANDARAYA

Nabasa ko na ang Mobile Air’s owner, Jover Chew ay hinuli na at kinasuhan.  Si Chew ay naging subject ng media  outrage pagkaraang ang kanyang tindahan ay pinupuwersa ang isang turistang  Vietnamese , si Pham Van Thoai na magdagdag ng S$1,500 para sa  warranty ng binili niyang  iPhone 6.

Kumalat sa social media ang video na makikita si Mr Pham ay nakaluhod at lumuluhang hinihingi kay Chew na ibalik ang  ibinayad niyang S$950 para sa iPhone6. He was said to have recovered just S$400.

Umaksyon ang me ari ng mall sa pagtulong ng pulisya at nahuli nga si Jover Chew.

It reminds me of an experience last vacation ng isa pang kaso ng pandaraya.  We were in Shenzhen, China for a tour and relaxation. The city links Hongkong to China mainland  and one of the rapidly progressing cities of China due primarily to their Special Economic Zone which have attracted foreign investors.

In one of our trip to local manufacturer, we were treated with free taste (all you can) of preserve fruits, nuts and crackers. To the max ang mga kasama ko sa pag taste.. alam nyo na basta free, larga tayong mga pinoy diyan. Then we were offered 50% off on those items at syempre bilihan kami for pasalubong. Ngiting ngiti naman iyong mga Chinese sa amin (later on marealize ko kung bakit ngiting ngiti).

Pagdating ng pinas, e di pamigay na ng mga biniling pasalubong. Sarap kasi talaga e.

One of my nephews told me when he was about to open a pack of preserved fruit when he noticed that it was already 1 month expired. I checked all of our pasalubong from that manufacturer, and all of those we bought were expired.

I wonder kung iyong mga kasamahan namin ay napansin iyon.

Huwag na kasi magtaka. Made in China kaya yan.

Honesty is not in their dictionary.

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“I could either burn. Or cut off my pride and buy some time. A head full of lies is the weight. Tied to my waist. The river of deceit pulls down. The only direction we flow is down. Down, oh down.” – Mad Season

LONG HAIR GONE

During his early years in College, my eldest son used to wear his hair long, ala Jerry Yan or Dao Ming Zhou of the drama “Meteor Garden” also known as one of the F4 members. Ang Meteor Garden ay isang popular na TV drama noong 2001 sa Taiwan and made it in the Philippines in 2003.

“Meteor Garden ” centers around a poor teenage girl named Shan Chai (Barbie Hsu), na pinilit ng kanyang mga magulang na pumasok sa isang University na pangmayayaman. The university is dominated by Dao Ming Zhou (Jerry Yan), Hua Ze Lei (Vic Zhou), Mei Zuo (Vanness Wu) and Xi Men (Ken Chu), mga guwapong anak mayaman ngunit mga mayayabang at bullies sa eskuwelahan.

Binully nila si Shan Chai, pero she stood for what is right, hanggang sa ma-in love si Dao Ming sa kanya.

My eldest is also good in guitar, and in some of their school’s functions he performed ala Dao Ming Zhou. And mind you, noong umuwi kami sa aming probinsiya, pinagtitinginan siya at sinasabihang “F4”, “F4”!

Nang pagsabihan ko siya na magpagupit naman at napakahaba naman talaga ng buhok niya, he replied:
laddf4“Pa, hayaan mo na munang ma-enjoy ko ang buhok ko. Nakita ko na sa iyo ang future ng aking buhok, kaya habang bata pa ako, let me enjoy my buhok.. “

Mana mana lang iyan!

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“You taught me all I know (you better me I know). I’m sorry for the times I made you sad. I just want you to know that. I know we’ve both made mistakes but you could never fail me. In my heart you’re the one who’s molded me to be a man who could make you proud. ” – The Word Alive