A business executive became depressed. Things were not going well at work, and he was bringing his problems home with him every night. Every evening he would eat his dinner in silence, shutting out his wife and five-year-old daughter. Then he would go into the den and read the paper using the newspaper to wall his family out of his life.
After several nights of this, one evening his son took his hand and pushed the newspaper down. He then jumped into his father’s lap, wrapped his arms around his neck and hugged him strongly. The father said abruptly, “Son, you are hugging me to death!” “No, Daddy,” the little son said, “I’m hugging you to life!”
Marami sa atin ang masyadong nalululong sa mga aktibidades na nauukol sa mga fundamental needs ng ating sarili. Natutuon ang isip at panahon sa trabaho, pagaaral, pakikisama sa barkada o pulitika. Kaya siguro sa Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs ay nasa pangatlo at pangapat lamang ang Love/Belonging and Esteem needs.
Nakakaligtaan nating harapin at pagtuunan ng pansin an gating mga mahal sa buhay. Nakakaligtaan natin na bigyan ng pagkakataon ang ating sarili na pakinggan ang mga kasayahan, hinaing, kabiguan at mga bagay na kinatatakutan ng ating mga mahal sa buhay. May mga pagkakataon pa na maging ang mga importanteng event sa ating buhay with our family, with our loved ones ay ating nalilimutan.
When was the last time you personally hug your mother, your father, your son or your daughter? When was the last time you said “I love you” sa pinakamamahal mo sa buhay? When was the last time you said “Thank you” sa iyong Nanay, sa iyong Tatay for bringing you up dito sa mundo, for caring for you, for educating you (tapos ikaw pa ang nagloloko), for supporting you (tapos napakapasaway mo, for being there with you kahit na ikaw ay puro sakit ng ulo ang ibinigay sa kanila at di mo inayos ang buhay mo.
This was made worse with the advent of modern technology. Akala ba natin ay nakakapagcommuncate tayo sa kanila sa pamamagitan ng texts, emails, tweets, private messages o pagpoposts sa FB wall nila. Ang personal na touch ay nawawala. Ang makita at madama mo ng personal ang feelings nila ay di mo mararamdaman.
Technology is lifeless. It is like a robot. Hindi mararamdaman ng mga mahal mo sa buhay ang init ng iyong yakap, ng iyong mga IHIP SA PUNONG TENGA, ng haplos sa buhok, ng isinisiwalat ng iyong mata, ng iyong tuwa.. ng sincerity ng nais mong ipadama.
Hug them now. Kiss them now. Tell them how thankful you are to them now. Tell them you love them……. now.
“When U give ’em your all, and still it’s only second best.U can come and lay your head upon your baby’s chest. Every one of your worries, all your miseries. You can put them in the little book and ship them off to sea. Cause…. I got a 1,000 hugs and kisses for you when you come back home..” – Prince