ARROGANCE IS

I was waiting in the lobby of a Hotel for an afternoon meeting with one of our principals when an apparent Guest of the hotel approached the information. The Guest is of a nationality noted to have a articulated social strata in their country. They are observed to be arrogant, announcing their position or education or if you give them a chair and a table and they will think they are already high in position. He asked the guy in the counter who happens to be his compatriot.

Guest: “Show me how to get to XYZ Mall”
Information: “Sure. Where to again?”
Guest: “To XYZ Mall. Do I have to repeat what I am saying? You’re not hard at hearing, are you? Are you all the same in your village?”

Uhuumm umaangat na ang magazines sa harap ko sa lumalakas na hangin.

Information: “Okay. It is very near here. Just make a U-turn at the first corner and after 2 traffic lights, you turn right and you are already there.”
Guest: “Stop telling me what to do! I’m not your servant! Don’t you know that I am GM of ABC Company?”
Information: “Sir, I never tell you what to do. I am telling you the directions.”
Guest: “Just don’t tell me what to do. Don’t tell me to make a U-turn. I am not your servant!”
Information: “With fervent apologies Sir. Here is the map Sir. Certainly, it shows the directions anywhere in the city.”
Guest: “This will do, you Donkey!”

Arrogance sucks.

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“Better watch out. Going for the knockout. And I won’t stop. Till I’m on top now. Not gonna give up. Until I get what’s mine” – Joanna Pacitti

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FAITH IS HUMILITY – LESSON FROM THE MOVIE “SALMON FISHING IN THE YEMEN”

Di ako kaagad maka-get over sa movie na “Salmon Fishing in the Yemen” ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qMMZJl2dlrM). At first I was hesitant to watch this movie because of the “Salmon Fishing” in the title. I was thinking it was a sort of tutorial in fishing and I want some story that can bring motivation. I enjoyed watching and attentively listened to the dialogues. It gives us more understanding about Faith. Most notable quote in the movie:

“I intended to create a small miracle. Something to glorify God and bring our tribes together. Sometimes I wonder if we haven’t created something that glorifies man. It is a very fine line.” – Sheik Muhammad

Madalas nating sinasabi na ang anumang bagay na ating ginagawa o nakakamit ay for God’s purposes or to glorify Him, pero to quote from the movie, hindi natin matawid ang “very fine line” dahil tinatalo tayo ng pagglorify (pag-angat) sa ating sarili. Kapag nakatanggap ng increase o bonus, “God be the glory” kaagad tayo, pero ipapamalita agad, magboblow out. Bakit di natin kaya maibigay kahit part ng increase sa kawanggawa, instead of ipagblow out natin. That glorifies God more. Or kapag nakaligtas sa isang kapahamakan o nanalo sa isang paligsahan (lalo na kung pera ang premyo), “Praise God” kaagad tayo, pero after praising God, nasaan tayo and again blow out or magpakain, in the guise of sharing the blessings. All with a purpose of announcing what we have achieved, what we have surpassed, what we have survived. Meron pa nga riyan, “praise God, number 1 ako or ang anak ko” (I hate to use the popular Top 1 or Top 3 or Top 5, because it is grammatically wrong, and what one implies is pinakamataas, pangatlo, panglima, pag Top 3, ibig sabihin 3 silang nangunguna, so with Top 5), pero ang itinataas ay ang sarili o ang anak.

We achieved something, we survived, we passed, because of our Faith, Faith in God. Kadalasan challenge ko nga sa mga nakakaachieve, nakakasurvive, nakakapasa.. kung may increase ka ng say 1,000 pesos, bakit di mo ibigay sa kawanggawa ang unang increase mo, iyong unang 1,000 pesos lang. We would rather buy something or treat friends with that 1,000 pesos and how happy we are hearing papuri SA ATING NAKAMIT.

The fine line here is HUMILITY.

Luke 18:14 “For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”

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“For Thy steadfast love is great, Is great to the heavens, And Thy faithfulness, Thy faithfulness to the clouds.
Be exalted, O God, above the Heavens. Let Thy glory be over all the earth.” – Christian Worship Song

LOVE OR RESPECT? RESPECT OR LOVE?

Miriam Santiago when asked what she prefers, to be loved or to be respected: “I want to be respected because respect means using the mind, while to be loved means using the heart, which is very unreliable.”

Maraming interpretasyon at kahulugan ang Love at Respect. Merong nagsasabi na pag may love ay may respect at pag may respect ay may love.

Kung dumarating ang isang mataas ang katungkulan, maging sa kompanya, sa gobyerno o saan man, pansinin na lahat ay rumirespeto sa kanya. You call that respect, don’t you? But such respect is phony, sa punto ng mga nangyayari sa ating bansa o saan man,  because behind it there is fear, greed. Marami ang kaya gumagalang, wants something out of the guy, so may naglalagay ng bulaklak, merong yes ng yes, aabutan ng kape, etc. Meron ding dahil natatakot tayo kaya tayo ay gumagalang, baka mawalang ng trabaho, baka makulong o baka masuspinde.  If you really have love in your heart, para sa iyo kahit pa anong katayuan niya, Presidente, Manager, Guro, Katiwala, Katulong o Janitor  you have respect, a feeling for them all, because love does not ask anything in return.

Which goes back sa isang nabasa ko na Men likes to be respected, while Women likes to be loved.

When men receive respect, they respond in love. When women receive love they begin to respect. Nagkakaroon ng malusog na pagsasama. The opposite is also true, halos lahat tayo ay nagrireact imbes na magrespond. Kapag ang isang lalake ay naramdamang di siya iginagalang, ang reaction niya ay nagiging unloving, nagiging mapagsarili at agresibo. Ang babae naman kapag nakaramdam na di sila loved, nagiging disrespectful, nagiging punahin, nagger, at magagalitin.
 
Kaya nga men must give love. Maging expressive, pakinggan ang hinaing ng mga babae, maging a shoulder to cry on, a laughing heart to tell corny jokes. Ang mga women naman ay maging respectful. Give praises, encouragements, ipakitang masaya ka sa piling niya, at higit sa lahat huwag punahin ang mga kakulangan.
Kaya I think si Miriam ay may pusong lalake dahil sa mas gusto niya ang respect.
However,  the respect must be borne out of love. Walang nakatagong agenda.
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 “Oh baby please, give a little respect to me. I’m so in love with you. I’ll be forever blue
That you give me no reason. ” – Erasure

WAY TO INSPIRE.. THANKS JIMMY!

Makisakay na nga muna ako sa Gilas Pilipinas mania. Me good and bad points kasing naituro sa atin ang karanasan na ito sa Spain.

Una, maraming kritiko at bashers ang naglabasan na naman. Sila iyong wala nang nakitang maganda sa buhay, lalo na sa ibang tao. Sila iyong magagaling at walang mali sa mga ginagawa. Sa mga close losses ng Gilas, from the coach to the players at marahil nga ang iba pati God ay sinisisi nila. Can’t satisfy these kind of people. They are forever insatiable because they are forever covering up their incapacities, insufficiencies at kawalan ng achievements sa buhay. No thank you’s para sa kanila.

Second, lumabas ang mga heroes like Pingris, Chan, de Ocampo, Norwood (what a guy), Blatche, Aguilar, Fajardo, Tenorio, almost all of the team, but the most notable is Jimmy Alapag.

Jimmy personified inspiration. He is Mr. Inspiration.

JImmy Alapag had come to Manila on his own, with nothing but a small bag and a dream: to play for the Philippine team. No family, no backer; just his raw desire and courage. His papers didn’t make it in time for the Asian Games that year. Then, in his first exhibition game in the PBA, he fractured his hand. But he never gave up. He was the Rookie of the Year and led his team to six PBA championships. And he directed Gilas to that magnificent win over Senegal. He is an example for all of us. An inspiration to move on despite criticisms and bashes.

People are inspired with different things and often by small things.

We can also do it by showing:

a. Optimism – show energy, look at opportunities and project that you give hope to do things
b. Courage – stand up for what you believe, even it it is not popular
c. Care – you support, you commit sa mga kaibigan, sa pamilya, sa team, kahit na ano ang mangyari

We can move others by being an example. We can inspire others even in small ways.

I met Jimmy at the dairy section of Pioneer Center in Mandaluyong in early 2006, simple guy quietly taking groceries.

Oh, by the way, Jimmy is only 5′ 9″. And his monicker is “Mighty Mouse”.

Small.

But inspiring.

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“Build something. Build a better place and call it home. Even if it means nothing. You’ll never ever feel that you’re alone.”- Oasis