Kasama ko ang isang Sales Engineer namin sa pagbisita sa isang kompanya. Wala akong kakilala sa kompanyang iyon but I was able to make my way and after 3 short discussions, I was guided to the General Manager. Ang kasama kong Sales Engineer was full of admiration, paano ko raw nagawa iyon. Sabi ko, I was just being myself.
Then sinabi niya sa akin, alam mo iba sa mga naririnig ko ang pagkakilala ko sa iyo. Marami naninira sa iyo but nakita ko na mahusay, matulungin, mabait at magalang ka.
Sagot ko, “honestly, those people inspires me to work more and do my best. Because they cannot cope up to the level of what I can do, so they resort to gossips and intrigues. Just look at them. They are pitiful incompetents who live on pretensions, showing fake MBAs, Certificates, Work Experiences, Positions, etc.” Then, I stressed:
“You are not out to please anybody but yourself. Worrying about what people think or hope they will like you, leaves you without a real sense of yourself.”
Dinugtong ko pa, “if you try to fit yourself into in everyone else’s perceptions and the community’s perception of “normal” you are denying everyone and the world of all your gifts, talents, knowledge and who you really is.”
This is the sad part in any group, organization, community, country and the world. Some people have a ready perception of what they want in others. At karamihan naman ay pinapatulan ito. Pinipilit na makibagay sa kung ano ang gusto ng iba, only to end up as not pleasing everybody. No identity.
The main thing here is love. We have differences. Walang sumuswak sa hulmahan ng perfection.
I couldn’t see that people don’t love each other because they’re perfect. They love each other for everything, including the flaws. More so, we love each other in large part because of our flaws.
I remember the movie “Two for the money” sabi ni Robert de Niro kay Matthew McConaughey “You cannot be perfect. Your imperfections and your differences are what set you apart and unique. And people love you for that.”
Learning to embrace yourself and shut out the need to please people or be what everyone else might want you to be is hard and it’s not something that can be an overnight change. But learning to accept all of the parts of yourself, including the ones you may not like, is not only the greatest gift you can give to yourself, it’s the greatest gift you can give to the world around you too. Let them talk about you. Let them gossip. Let them sow intrigues.
But… you should be you.
You are God’s creation.
You offer yourself as you. With all your flaws and imperfections.
You offer it you in all of your wonderful and unique glory!
“Don’t lose who you are in the blur of the stars. Seeing is deceiving, dreaming is believing. It’s okay not to be okay
Sometimes it’s hard to follow your heart. Tears don’t mean you’re losing. Everybody’s bruising. Just be true to who you are.” – Jessie J