Matagal na ito, isang araw ay kinausap ako ng isa sa mataas na pinuno ng aming organization dahil sa isang issue which I cannot agree. He is in high pitch voiced (as he always is whenever he is talking to me) and stressed that I am so stubborn. I reasoned that it is not stubbornness but I am riding on my principles.. that I cannot accept a proposition if I feel it is detrimental to the organization. I cannot just say yes, to which he got so irritated. I added further that I am willing to discuss, air my side, willing to listen to his or their side (mga alipores nya) and together weigh down what is really the right thing to do. Pero gusto lang nya marinig sa akin ay “yes”.
Then he blurted, “the problem with you is that you are using your emotions, not reasons, using your heart not your mind..”
I replied, “i am using both reasons and emotions, if not, I would have just said “yes” to you and let the organization suffer. And I could have been out of the organization long time ago if it not for my emotion prevailing over reasons. With my emotion the love for work prevailed over money, that is why I am still here, as oppose to others who follow money which drove them to follow blindly and disregard accountability.”
Ang gusto kasi ay puro yes ang marinig at pag nagsalita ka ng no at nagexplain, emotional ka na.
Emotion has its advantages over logic. When you arouse the emotions of people you engage them and take them away from your intention to influence and persuade. It requires less effort than logic, lalo na kung principled ang tao. Ang mga issues na tinatackle ng may halong emotion means there is a feeling involved, there is accountability, there is pride. Where is pride sa isang tao na pag itinuro mo ang kulay puti, at sinabi mong, “kulay itim ito di ba?” tapos sasagot siya ng “yes, itim nga iyan..” Mapasaya lang ang nagtatanong, mapadikit lang at bumango sa boss kahit na mali ay sasang-ayunan.
The only hitch is that we must know when to create positive or negative emotions. Me mga lahi kasi na ang namamayaning emotion ay ang pagiging makasarili (selfish) and will do anything para makamit nila ang pera at position.
Tapos dinugtungan pa ng mataas na taong ito ng, “kayong mga Pilipino ay masyadong emosyonal..”
Sinagot ko, “hindi iyon emosyon, iyon ay pride… prinsipyo, na di nakukuha sa pagmamahal sa salapi, kundi sa pagmamahal sa sarili at pagtingin sa kung ano ang magagawa at maiaambag sa organisasyon..”
Bottom line, di pa rin niya ako mapapasagot ng “yes” pag sa aking tingin ay hindi tama ang gagawin o ginagawa.
“I decided long ago. Never to walk in anyone’s shadow. If I fail if I succeed, at least I live as I believe. No matter what what they take from me, they can’t take away my dignity… ” – George Benson